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[mallorys_camera]

Tons of age-appropriate men on the online dating site, many of whom wrote gushing emails about how bee-you-tee-ful I am, which of course is good for my battered ego. A couple of them even seem interesting – one CA transplant with whom I exchanged Fellini critiques and insights into Jungian psychology for three hours; another kind and simple soul from the ruined industrial town of Cortland to the north who shares my interest in walking around places stalking the terroir, trying to imagine what life was like there 100, 50 or even 25 years ago. Former might be bf material; latter might be someone to go to the movies and drink coffee with. Anyway, I had great fun playing there most of the day yesterday, although now I am waaaay behind on my word count.

Also Jayne LeGro canceled. She really is scared shitless of me, isn’t she? I didn’t really want to meet her either after she shot daggers at me from behind closed car windows the other night. Maybe it’s because I’m bisexual, maybe it’s because I lived in Berkeley all those years, but I’ve always rather enjoyed meeting my bf’s exes. Suzanne Fox and I even became lovers (damn the moon, damn the romance, she wrote many years later.)

I am tempted to write Jayne LeGro a really nasty letter but of course I won’t. Psycho ex-wives have the worst karma. Jayne LeGro is just a country mouse, scared to death I’m going to seduce her boyfriend. And I don't really want him. I just don't want her to have him. The odd thing is he appears to enjoy being kept on such a short leash – for now, at least. Seventeen years we were together and apparently I didn’t know the first thing about him – this is what he wanted all along.

Men really are threatened by independent women, aren’t they? Maybe that’s why he behaved so badly all those years. Maybe he was scared shitless of me too.

Comments

[gringo-in-tj.livejournal.com]

Some men seem to be threatened by independent women, but certainly not all men. I need an independent woman if I need a woman at all, because I like to be left alone for great stretches. So, I reckon I need that in a woman as well. I couldn't imagine myself with a dependent woman, some subservient trophy wife, during those long years I played the ponies and drank my own weight in beer afterward. What I got was a woman that said, "Pay the rent and the bills and come home at night."

It worked out.

[anais-pf.livejournal.com]

I'm so happy you're getting some interest from good candidates on OkCupid.

Some men are threatened by independent women. I assure you there is a whole swath of men out there who really enjoy independent women. And the older the man is, the more likely he has learned to enjoy independent women.

[gringo-in-tj.livejournal.com]

Age may have something to do with it, I thought of that, but maybe it's wisdom? It took me up until about 30 to gain any wisdom at all, but I reckon that some men could gain it younger than that.

And by the way, your bunny has a pancake on its head, thought I'd point that out in case you hadn't noticed.

[anais-pf.livejournal.com]

Well yes, it's wisdom, and increased self security and less to prove and the fruits of introspection, all gathered along the way of life experience -- not age, per se. In general I've found it easier to get along with men the older we've all gotten. Of course some of that is due to the wisdom and et cetera I myself have gained along the way.

[mallorys-camera.livejournal.com]

Some men seem to be threatened by independent women, but certainly not all men..

True.

I'm just indulging in a little bit of foot stamping and pouting.

[mallorys-camera.livejournal.com]

I assure you there is a whole swath of men out there who really enjoy independent women.

Yes, I know you're right. :-)

[mallorys-camera.livejournal.com]

The big thing that helped me get along with men? (And at this point I get along better with men than most women.)

Giving birth to two of them.

Seriously. :-)

[anais-pf.livejournal.com]

Interesting! Too late for me to do that. But I find I get along better with men than with women, and better with men THAN most women, too.

[mallorys-camera.livejournal.com]

You and I ahve a lot of personality traits in common. :-)

[anais-pf.livejournal.com]

Yup, I've noticed that. :)

[cake-o-rama.livejournal.com]

I like how this is going

[badrobot68.livejournal.com]

I'm fascinated by this whole thing. In the gay world, we all seem to become good friends with our exes, at least once a little time has passed.

[mallorys-camera.livejournal.com]

Just one of the many ways in which gays have it more together than us mostly-straights, if ya ask me.

[badrobot68.livejournal.com]

Its always weird to me how many women seem to not trust each other. The gays get along with everyone! Heh.

[mallorys-camera.livejournal.com]

We-e-ell... I can't say I have her best interests at heart. She's probably right not to trust me. :-)

[nokomisjeff.livejournal.com]

I always seemed to hang around guys much more than women, but rare are the women who have the same interests that I have. anyways, women are basically much smarter and more trustworthy than men......miost women anyways:) Have a happy new years.

[slfisher.livejournal.com]

glad you're getting good responses from the site!

love this post

[dinahprincedaly.livejournal.com]

here's another friend of mine you might like to add, whose often dark and raw writings you might find inspiring... http://fasterpussycat.livejournal.com/